Showing posts with label encourage. Show all posts
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Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Parent Leadership Month

February is Parent Leadership Month. Some of you may be wondering, like myself, what that is and what does it mean? This was put into effect to help families become stronger and safer and help show strong leadership traits. It was also implemented to give knowledge in leadership and teach different leadership styles. When a parent shows great leadership and management skills the family as a whole is stronger. Children watch everything their parents do, even when you think they aren't.

It is very important for a parent to show their leadership skills with parent and community involvement. If your child sees you supporting the community and acting as a true leader your child will do the same and soon become a leader themselves. If you show the initiative and teach them what good leadership skills are they will catch on quickly and follow your lead as they get older. Most kids like to be a part of community groups and involved in activities; so get your child involved and show them the real qualities of a leader.

When I researched this subject, I searched the internet for the definition of leadership. These are some words that came up: leader, guidance, command, direct, influence, effectiveness, control, sway, and the list goes on. When I think of how to define leadership to my children I think of one thing, what can you do to encourage others to realize their potential?

The meaning of leadership isn't a bunch of words or synonyms that are used to describe something. Leadership is something that is developed over time. Some of the leadership words above may lead your child to develop leadership qualities you don't want him to have. They may think by being a leader that means they get to boss everyone around and everyone does what they say.

meaning of leadership
Leadership in schools is a
great place for kids to start.
Different types of leadership skills are often confused with being bossy and being the "Leader of the pack". This can happen at school and this is also where bulling comes into play. Leadership in schools is a place where kids can learn the difference between leading and bullying. Being a leader is the opposite of being a bully. We tell our children that a leader stands up for someone who is being bullied.

So, how can parents teach and show great leadership skills to help our kids become leaders? Here are three key words, SHOW, EXPLAIN, and ENCOURAGE.  These words will help you teach your children great leadership skills. It will also get them involved in the community and show off all your great parenting leadership skills.

  • Show your children what a healthy relationship is and how it works both ways. There isn't any one person that is in charge, but you work as a team. If there is a disagreement you work it out instead of cowering down to the stronger person. Come up with a solution that everyone is happy with. This will teach them that there doesn't have to be just one leader in a relationship. Being a leader doesn't mean everyone does what you say. Being a leader means you do what is best for everyone that is involved to make the relationship stronger.
  • Explain what a team is and how important it is to listen to everyone on the team. Everyone needs someone to help them out and that is what any team does. Whether it's in sports, work, or school, everyone has to work together to get a job done.There is always someone that coordinates or comes up with an idea, but what makes that person a true leader is how they get everyone around them involved to help out.
  • Encourage social skills and have your children become an organized leader. Look through the local newspaper and see if there are any events in your community that your kids can get involved with. Encourage them to go to their friends and see who wants to join them. Having them take the initiative to get their friends involved, you have opened the door to leadership. All they might need is a little nudge in the right direction and most of the time they will finish it.
organized leader
Who are community leaders? You, me and anyone else
who is willing to make the community better.
If you are in need of some extra help in developing better parent leadership skills there are plenty of people and organizations that will help. Parents Anonymous Inc. is a great place to start. Their Shared Leadership Program helps to strengthen partnerships between parents and others in the community to build stronger families and individuals.

A lot of people think that you are born a leader, I disagree. I think anyone can become a leader. Is leadership a skill that you can develop? Yes, very much so! I am living proof of that. I use to be the shy kid in school who barely spoke and the only thing I did outside my box was play sports. I came from a broken home and my parents divorced when I was very young. I only saw my dad a few weeks out of the year and he was the one with tremendous leadership skills. Not that mom didn't have those skills, but she was so busy working and trying to make ends meat that I didn't see her much. When I turned 16 I made a life changing decision to move in with my Dad and that is when it I started to develop leadership skills. He didn't have to say much to me about how to be a leader, but I was able to learn from watching his example. He ran his own business and helped the people around him. He made everyone around him realize their own potential, which I believe is the best leadership skill anyone can have. After a short amount of time I started building confidence in myself and it wasn't long before I became a leader just like him. I have four other siblings and we are all leaders in our own ways. We have our father to thank for that. So, parents are where it needs to start to help children become the next leaders in our society.

It is never too late to take charge and who knows, maybe your child will be the next president, of his or her own company, student council or even of the United States!

Marci Psalmonds
Contributing Writer